As we are into March I wanted to give you a little update of where we are
A friend of mine invited me to co-host a “Life Work” Series thru a panel of some other movers & shakers for her Adult Learning University students (a coarse they call Life Development). Now I’m not a life coach, I can only tell you what I know for sure and as a busy Chic Momma, Entrepreneur, PR Chic my life can get a little crazy and with that she needed “real people” on her panel to give their opinion.
I have spoke this many times giving yourself permission in the power of “YES”. When I read Shonda Rhims book “Year of YES” it opened doors for me. So in continuing in my “Life Work” Series with a few panelists of friends I wanted to share my series with you and notes I’ll be taking from others on the panel with a little more expereience other than myself. However either way, I’m hoping you get something out of this if not just dialouge and amongst your peers that get you shakin & stirred and reinventing your LIFEstyle.
What is a Power Word?
All words are powerful in their own way, it really depends on who is listening. For example, if you tell someone that you love them in English, yet they only speak Mandarin, then it won’t have any meaning or power at all. That’s why I’ve come to understand that firstly we must be speaking the same language before any words can have power.
In a sense, words have no power at all. It’s more that they are given meaning by the person who is listening to them. I’ll talk a little more about this later as we can radically reduce the power words have over us to make us feel good or bad just by changing one simple thing about the way we listen.
For now though, a power word is a word that instantly empowers you the moment you speak it. Sure, you can also group words together to make powerful statements, but what I’m talking about here is the power to use two simple words to let yourself and others know exactly where you stand.
Those words are, ‘Yes’, and ‘No’.
How And When To Use Power Words
This is the simplest part of all. Say ‘Yes’ when you mean yes, and say ‘No’ when you mean no. If you stick to this rule then you’ll live a happy, healthy, and empowered life. But if you don’t, then you’ll end up feeling frustrated and resentful that you are not being honest with yourself and others.
The most obvious reason that we would say yes when we mean no would be so that we don’t disappoint someone we love or care about, or if it’s in a work environment where we don’t feel safe to say no. The reality is that the only reason any of us say yes when we mean no is because at some level we are afraid of being honest.
Once we recognize that our fear is in control of our life, rather than our courage, then we can choose to take steps to change it. At first you may need to think about a few different ways to learn to say no without it coming across to harsh or blunt. Once you get comfortable with saying no, then of course, that won’t be an issue.
7 Ways To Practice Saying ‘No’ Gently
1. Right now it’s a no from me, but perhaps we can look at it some other time?
2. It’s not really something that I’m interested in but thank you for thinking of me.
3. Hmmm… that’s not going to work for me.
4. It’s actually quite hard for me to say no to people, but I’m practicing being more courageous, so I’m going to say no right now.
5. Yes, I might be interested in something like that at some other point in time, but it’s a no for right now.
6. I’m not available for something like that right now but how would Saturday at 3pm work for you?
7. I’d prefer not to at the moment but perhaps we can look at it again some other time.
The Power of Saying ‘Yes’ to Yourself
When you say no to someone else you are always saying yes to yourself – and that is a very powerful thing to do. Yes, is without a doubt one of the most powerful words in the English language as it has the power to open doors and create a connection like no other word can.
Conversely, when we say no, it typically creates a disconnection between others as how they react to it will depend on their level of self-esteem. People with low self-esteem, or those who have a superiority complex will see it as a rejection or a personal dig at them. Either way, you can’t be responsible for their insecurities so do your best to love them anyway.
The fastest way to allow the power of the word yes to uplift your life is to get really good at saying yes to yourself – all the time. When you get good at that, then you’ll find it easier to say yes to others when you mean it, and then to say no when you mean it.
Every time you say yes to someone when you mean no, you undermine your own self-esteem. This ultimately leads to resenting what you are doing for others, which will affect how you think and feel about both them and yourself.
Age 3: She looks at herself and sees a Princess.
Age 6: She looks at herself in the mirror and sees a Barbie doll.
Age 10: She looks at herself and sees Cinderella.
Age 15: She looks at herself and sees an Ugly Sister.
Mum, I can’t go to school looking like this!
Age 20: She looks at herself and sees too fat/too thin, too short/too
tall, too straight/too curly – fixes herself the best she can, but
decides she’s going out anyway.
Age 30: She looks at herself and sees too fat/too thin, too short/too
tall, too straight/too curly – but decides she doesn’t have time to fix
It, so she’s going out anyway.
Age 40: She looks at herself and sees too fat/too thin, too short/too
tall, too straight/too curly – but says, At least, I am ‘clean’ and
goes out anyway.
Age 50: She looks at herself and sees I am and goes wherever she wants
Age 60: She looks at herself and reminds herself of all the people who
can’t even see themselves in the mirror anymore. Goes out and conquers
Age 70: She looks at herself and sees wisdom, laughter and ability, goes
out and enjoys life.
Age 80: Doesn’t bother to look. Just puts on a purple hat and goes out
to have fun with the world.
Maybe we should all grab that purple hat earlier.
Monday morning is here! Fantastic! Let’s start your morning off with a bang by reading these inspirational quotes before you begin your day. I have a feeling it’s going to be a powerful and positive week 🙂
1. “First they ignore you, then they laugh at you, then they fight you, then you win.” – Mahatma Gandhi
2. “The greatest mistake you can make in life is to be continually fearing that you will make one.” – Elbert Hubbard
3. “Use whatever excuse you can to vibrate in harmony with those things you’ve been saying you want. And when you do, those things that are a vibrational equivalent flow into your experience in abundance. Not because you deserve it, not because you’ve earned it, but because it’s the natural consequence of the Law of Attraction. That which is like unto itself is drawn.” – Abraham Hicks
4. “If we are creating ourselves all the time, then it is never too late to begin creating the bodies we want instead of the ones we mistakenly assume we are stuck with.” – Deepak Chopra
5. “You are never too old to set another goal, or dream a new dream.” – C. S. Lewis
6. “If you can imagine it, you can achieve it. If you can dream it, you can become it.” – William Arthur Ward
7. “Fear is only as deep as the mind allows.” – Japanese proverb
8. “The only person who can pull me down is myself, and I’m not going to let myself pull me down anymore.” – C. JoyBell. C
9. “Our greatest weakness lies in giving. The most certain way to succeed is always to try just one more time.” – Thomas A. Edison
10. “In the name of God, stop a moment, cease your work, look around you.” – Leo Tolstoy