As we are into March I wanted to give you a little update of where we are
A friend of mine invited me to co-host a “Life Work” Series thru a panel of some other movers & shakers for her Adult Learning University students (a coarse they call Life Development). Now I’m not a life coach, I can only tell you what I know for sure and as a busy Chic Momma, Entrepreneur, PR Chic my life can get a little crazy and with that she needed “real people” on her panel to give their opinion.
I have spoke this many times giving yourself permission in the power of “YES”. When I read Shonda Rhims book “Year of YES” it opened doors for me. So in continuing in my “Life Work” Series with a few panelists of friends I wanted to share my series with you and notes I’ll be taking from others on the panel with a little more expereience other than myself. However either way, I’m hoping you get something out of this if not just dialouge and amongst your peers that get you shakin & stirred and reinventing your LIFEstyle.
What is a Power Word?
All words are powerful in their own way, it really depends on who is listening. For example, if you tell someone that you love them in English, yet they only speak Mandarin, then it won’t have any meaning or power at all. That’s why I’ve come to understand that firstly we must be speaking the same language before any words can have power.
In a sense, words have no power at all. It’s more that they are given meaning by the person who is listening to them. I’ll talk a little more about this later as we can radically reduce the power words have over us to make us feel good or bad just by changing one simple thing about the way we listen.
For now though, a power word is a word that instantly empowers you the moment you speak it. Sure, you can also group words together to make powerful statements, but what I’m talking about here is the power to use two simple words to let yourself and others know exactly where you stand.
Those words are, ‘Yes’, and ‘No’.
How And When To Use Power Words
This is the simplest part of all. Say ‘Yes’ when you mean yes, and say ‘No’ when you mean no. If you stick to this rule then you’ll live a happy, healthy, and empowered life. But if you don’t, then you’ll end up feeling frustrated and resentful that you are not being honest with yourself and others.
The most obvious reason that we would say yes when we mean no would be so that we don’t disappoint someone we love or care about, or if it’s in a work environment where we don’t feel safe to say no. The reality is that the only reason any of us say yes when we mean no is because at some level we are afraid of being honest.
Once we recognize that our fear is in control of our life, rather than our courage, then we can choose to take steps to change it. At first you may need to think about a few different ways to learn to say no without it coming across to harsh or blunt. Once you get comfortable with saying no, then of course, that won’t be an issue.
7 Ways To Practice Saying ‘No’ Gently
1. Right now it’s a no from me, but perhaps we can look at it some other time?
2. It’s not really something that I’m interested in but thank you for thinking of me.
3. Hmmm… that’s not going to work for me.
4. It’s actually quite hard for me to say no to people, but I’m practicing being more courageous, so I’m going to say no right now.
5. Yes, I might be interested in something like that at some other point in time, but it’s a no for right now.
6. I’m not available for something like that right now but how would Saturday at 3pm work for you?
7. I’d prefer not to at the moment but perhaps we can look at it again some other time.
The Power of Saying ‘Yes’ to Yourself
When you say no to someone else you are always saying yes to yourself – and that is a very powerful thing to do. Yes, is without a doubt one of the most powerful words in the English language as it has the power to open doors and create a connection like no other word can.
Conversely, when we say no, it typically creates a disconnection between others as how they react to it will depend on their level of self-esteem. People with low self-esteem, or those who have a superiority complex will see it as a rejection or a personal dig at them. Either way, you can’t be responsible for their insecurities so do your best to love them anyway.
The fastest way to allow the power of the word yes to uplift your life is to get really good at saying yes to yourself – all the time. When you get good at that, then you’ll find it easier to say yes to others when you mean it, and then to say no when you mean it.
Every time you say yes to someone when you mean no, you undermine your own self-esteem. This ultimately leads to resenting what you are doing for others, which will affect how you think and feel about both them and yourself.
8 wks “Life Work” Series 2/20 (week#3)
“Life Work “ Series
Appreciate What You Have
Every day you have to make choices that ensure the thing you have continue to thrive. So if you find a way of life that is good for you, do whatever I take to keep it. Complacency…the middle ground..is the attractive, safe choice. But fall into complacency, and that thing you love might wander off and be gone before you notice. Then what? Better to protect it in the first place. A relationship does not protect itself; it requires discipline and attention ~ Chris Guillebeau
It’s there right in front of you waiting for you to see it. If you waste all your time staring around at the blessings of those all around you, or taking for granted the wonderful, special, amazing, things in your own life you’ll spend all your time being miserable…What are you taking for granted?
How Do You Position Yourself For A Blessing?
~ Our Physical Lives
- Put yourself in a position of good health
- Enjoy a healthier lifestyle
- Invest your time wisely
~ In Our Moral Lives
- Put yourself in a position of good character & humanity
- Uphold your commitment to the convent of your spirit
- Love & Mercy
~ In Our Financial Lives
- Put yourself in a position of financial security
- 10% belongs to God
- Mission offering (serve)
8 wks “Life Work” Series 2/13 (week#2)
Spirituality in Daily Life
Being spiritual, at its core, is just being aware of the spirit inside and attending to its needs. My body has material needs of food, cleanliness, exercise etc. which I fulfil duly as it keeps me running. Similarly, my soul too has needs of purity, positivity, righteous living, love etc. So when my soul is deprived of its needs, how can I realign my soul and body to become one, which is the secret and primary need of success in any field?
Righteous living pertains to, but is not limited to, doing the right thing always, which we have made very difficult for ourselves in today’s life. We have become so used to doing things as per our convenience, that we don’t care whether what we are doing is morally and ethically right. So, who is really harmed here? Not others, but only our soul, which is getting engrossed and heavy. We can really feel the difference when we do something good, especially something good for others; we feel good and light. It’s a beautiful feeling, isn’t it!
So what I am trying to speak of here is a basic need, and the primary teaching in every religious and spiritual institution – the right way of living. If there is anything more important to spirituality than this, it is the right way of thinking, which again eventually builds up to righteous living.
Now one may ask how do I know what is right and what is wrong? Well, the soul always knows it, and guides us too! What we have to do is be aware of the presence of our soul inside. Believe me, you can listen to it. But to be able to listen to your inner Self takes a lot of practice, and this practice is best known as meditation. So I believe including this very practice of listening to the soul in our daily life, acts as the first and very important step towards finding spirituality in our daily life. As they say, “Keep calm and meditate”.
Doing Whatever It Takes
~ Challenge Your Spiritual Life…
~ Focus on Your Ability…
~ Your Drive, Your Desire, Your Attitude, Your Ambition…
~ Position Yourself…
~ Do Whatever God Wants You To Do…
~ Putting Away Selfish Ways…
~ Communicate & Motivate…
~ Bringing Joy, Happiness, Fulfillment In Your Life…
A friend of mine invited me to co-host a “Life Work” Series thru a panel of some other movers & shakers for her Adult Learning University students (a coarse they call Life Development). Now I’m not a life coach, so don’t go saying well Dr. Crystal said (uhh no), however there are Life Style Coaches that will be on the panel. I can only tell you what I know for sure and as a busy Chic Momma, Entrepreneur, PR Chic my life can get a little crazy and with that she needed “real people” on her panel to give their opinion. So, with that I wanted to share my series with you and notes I’ll be taking from others on the panel with a little more expereience other than myself. However either way, I’m hoping you get something out of this if not just dialouge and amongst your peers that get you shakin & stirred and reinventing your LIFEstyle. For the next 8 weeks I will be sharing life style information…again this is just something I wanted to share…ENJOY!!!!
“Life Work “ Series
Shake Things Up…
You step into your empty home after another notorious day at a 9-5 job and all of a sudden. You begin to wonder to yourself…when was the last time I let go and just spent the entire day without following the same exact routine. Am I ever going to have the chance to seek out quality time for myself. Sometimes the key to having an adventerous life is simply to tweek your city lifestyle it’s time to transform your life.
Living your best life doesn’t always mean traveling a linear path. Sometimes you need to shake things up along the way, throw the plan out the window and go in search of what truly makes you happy.
What does it mean to find your fit — to discover a sense of purpose and chase down the dreams that mean the most to you?
It’s about passion. It’s about truth. And most of all, it’s about listening to your gut.
Inspired by some people who have already done it, here are a few things to keep in mind when reinventing your own life.
The Wisdom of Andy Warhol
~ He wasn’t just a great artist, he knows a truth about life there are no short cuts, if you want to shake up your life you’ve got to make the changes yourself. People can always motivate or encourage you, but it’s ultimately up to you. Making changes help you to start thinking about other life changes you would like to make.
Shake Up Your Life
~ Making changes doesn’t hurt you…
~ Challenging yourself boasts your confidence…
~ Doing scary stuff won’t kill you…
~ Mixing things up make life more fun…
~ Shaking up your life will re-energize you…
What Needs To Happen
~ Make New Friends…
~ Stop wasting your time on unnecessary stuff…
~ Just dot it…
~ Love yourself enough…
~ Flex your brain muscles/cultural experiences