Motivation Monday: Focus Is…
Focus is a central point, as of attraction, attention, or activity according to dictionary.com
My pastor preached this message for Watch Night Service on New Year’s. I found this quote by Tony Robbins that states,
One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power. Most people dabble their way through life, never deciding to master anything in particular.
The part of this quote that stuck out to me is the first part that says, “One reason so few of us achieve what we truly want is that we never direct our focus; we never concentrate our power.” I found this to be exceptionally true for me. I consider my self to be a “goal digger,” and I set goals for all aspects of my life, but it is a struggle accomplishing those goals. I know that success is definitely a journey, but in many areas of my life, I feel like my journey could have been shorter if only I was focused. Some people may say that it wasn’t right because of God’s timing. God gave us free will so that we can make our own decisions. Some of the decisions that we make derail us from God’s plan, so he now has to redirect our steps and it takes us longer than he intended.
So in order to focus you have to know what focus is…
Welcome To 2014
This is the last Motivation Monday post of 2013 and I will keep it short and sweet. Around this time many people are creating their vision boards, writing their new year’s resolutions, or simply planning for 2014. I have yet to start any of that because I still have some unfinished business with 2013. So in order to prepare for 2014 I need to reflect on what took place in 2013. So here is how I set my goals for 2014. What I add to this list is based on my reflections, prayers, and conversations that I’ve had that have been enlightening. These categories are not particularly in any order of importance with the exception of the first four:
- Spiritual- my relationship with God as a Believer in Christ
- Relational- my relationships with people (family, friends, acquaintances, etc.)
- Financial- my relationship with money
- Health and Wellness- my relationship with my physical body
- Career- my next steps to move forward and my current responsibilities
- Educational- “learning begins at birth and ceases at death”- challenging myself intellectually
- Blog- my plans for the HGB brand
- Community Involvement- giving back to others- developing a spirit of generosity
- Character Building- How can I become a better me?
- Leisure/Self-Care- Doing things that I enjoy and that make me feel awesome!
So these are the areas of my life that I reflect on when developing goals for the new year and also when developing my vision board. I create a table and list a few bullet points for what I want to do throughout the year pertaining to those areas. Some categories can have somewhere between 3-5 bullet points, others may have one. I just depends on what I want to accomplish. I keep it posted near my night stand and jewelry board so I see it constantly.
How do you prepare for the new year?
What Are Men To Grown To Do!
As Told By A Fellow Male Friend:
The late, great R&B singer Aaliyah early in her career had a hit song titled Age Ain’t Nothin’ But A Number. In this song, she talks about a girl wanting to date an older guy, and that their ages don’t matter.
I heard this song the other day on Pandora radio and kind of joked around with my wife about how the song title can be applied to activities and actions of grown men. Let me explain.
I personally think that when it comes to stuff that I see some grown men doing, they must think that “Age Ain’t Nothin’ But A Number.” I say that because, for example, 40 and 50 year old men acting like they are half that age must take that stance, right?
Cedric the Entertainer comically discussed how he was a “grown-a** man” and too old for immature behavior in the Original Kings of Comedy. And as I grow older and find myself settled down as a father and husband, it’s like my “he’s too old for that” senses are heightened and leave me shaking my head in disappointment on a daily basis.
I see it everyday. I see grown men that are simply just too old for:
-Not having a job
-Living at home with his parents
-Running in an out of trouble with the law
-Not taking care of children
-Wearing pants halfway off their butts
-No financial plan
-Why Does This Pose A Problem?
Anytime men act like anything but a man, it creates an opportunity for women to stereotype and generalize. A lot of immature actions by men leave women wondering, “where all the good men are” or asking “why won’t men just be men?” Plus, it makes great guys look bad. It’s a shame if you ask me and guys should take note.
Ladies (especially single ladies), if you are encountering guys that act of engage in immature actions/behavior, don’t let that discourage you from meeting Mr. Right. He’s out there, trust me!
I said all that to ask you this week’s Question of the Week:
What Are Grown Men Too Old For?
What actions or activities do you see grown men doing that just are not fitting? Ladies, maybe you’ve dated a man that engaged in something that did not seem like a grown man would do. Or guys, what have you seen some of your peers doing that you just didn’t understand for their age? Whatever your feedback is about the question of the week, feel free to share in the comment section.