Celebrating 40!

It took 40 years to get here and I’m not done yet, as we go thru the years they say with age brings wisdom and this I have found to be true because I’m not who I used to be. Most people make bucket lists I make a Persona List, this list represents what I plan to accomplish for the up coming year and what wever birthday year I will be turning I develop those number of goals. Ex: Last year while 39 I made 39 items to finish before my 40th birthday and here are a few things I would like to share with you.

Getting to Know Me A Re-Evaluation

How I did it: I realised that no matter what, I do love myself. I love the things that I do for other people, and if I continue to do things to help others then I will feel better about myself. I realise that I am not a bad person, I am a good friend and family member, and although I have some failed relationships, I am one kick ass girlfriend/wife and a man would be lucky to have me as his lady. I have badass mommy skillz, I am fun to be around, I have many adventures and I am rather witty and intelligent. I love being me. I love it all, faults and all I am good enough for myself. It made me happier and content!

Looking at folks in the eyes
How I did it:though uncomfortable at times, was never really the problem. Remembering to do so on the other hand was the primary issue. The routine email reminders ensured I would make an effort to look people in the eyes. “Took an incredibly long time and a lot of effort, but in the end it was worth everything that I put into it.”

Stop procrastinating
How I did it: I set it as the main goal. Even if I didn’t feel like doing something, I pushed myself to do it until it became habit. I taught myself to go headfirst into whatever comes at me, regardless of what it may be.

Lessons & Tips: Just push yourself to do what needs to be done. That is exactly what I did and look where it got me!

Resources: Willpower.

Love & Be Loved
How I did it: I simply accepted God’s love as the greatest love. Everything else pales in comparison. I can never love Him as much as He loves me. As for the love of a man, I’m patient. When he comes I’ll be ready. I feel contented.”

Resources: The Word of God

Have Patience
How I did it: I controlled my temper, went out of the room, had to count to ten (100at times) – all the things recommended to do when you’re at risk to loose it – and it helped me. It took some time for me to believe in these things, but seeing once that it worked, I tried again and with every step I got more confident that I can be and stay patient with my family, my children, myself and the rest of the world. =) I’m not saying that I am completely and 100 % patient. I’m not looking for perfection here. But these techniques (staying calm, counting, leaving the room, even meditating) worked to improve my situation a lot. I am more quiet, more at peace with myself and my family.”

Living Instead Of ExistingI’m feeling so positive about this today. I’m beginning to realise that the small things do count. I used to let myself get down about the fact I wasn’t going anywhere exotic, or taking part in some truly life changing activity, etc. Every little small thing and new experience adds up.

I’ve decided to combine this goal with two of my others: to go out more, and to make the most of everyday. It’s the same thing I’m working towards, really.

“Rewarding”
How I did it: I always thought you could control everything in your life but after screwing a lot of things up (as you do in your 20s) I just let go and decided to see what what would happen.

Lessons & Tips: Remember the first time you tried snorkeling or just putting your head underwater? It’s the same thing you just need to trust that everything will be ok

A Healthier Lifetsyle
How I did it: I started eating healthier, drinking more water and actually working out again. Pilates, yoga and cardio. Plus meditating and coming to terms with the things that were making me feel hopeless and unhappy. I’m very proud of myself for what I have done so far! I feel so much healthier, I look amazing and my confidence is rising 🙂 I still have low moments, but I know now I can work through them and survive! “so worth it”

I Am So Looking Foward To 40!
I’m celebrating for all those who didn’t make it this far…

Happy Birthday!